As you know, we talk a lot about process, we stress to not focus on the results but to enjoy the journey. How often have you said this to someone that you know or someone that you are trying to help, regardless of the topic, whether it’s school, business or relationships? How often have you said to others that it is ok to make mistakes, it is ok to challenge yourself and that if you aren’t making mistakes you aren’t trying but most importantly don’t be afraid to fail? As a coach to someone you care about, would you ever tell them something that would ultimately break them down to a point of no return? The answer is NO! You, me and most human beings are too sympathetic to hurt someone’s feelings, at least not intentionally!
What does this have to do with your journey? EVERYTHING! Every day you are your own coach, most of the time as your own coach we are harder on ourselves than we are on anyone else. If you wouldn’t hurt anyone else’s feelings or tear them down, why then would you do that to yourself? This isn’t to say that it is bad to be tough on yourself or your friend/s, I am saying, DO NOT tell yourself how bad you are. You may tell yourself how you weren’t happy with an outcome or assess the reason why you did not perform as well as you would have liked. Be your own best coach by giving yourself the best advice that you have ever given to someone else. The great Coach John Wooden had a great quote we all can learn from, “I am not as bad as I think I am, I am not as good as I want to be, I will continue to work to be my best every day!”
As you are gearing up for the next golf season, work hard daily to be your best and when you make mistakes, accept them for what they are, efforts towards improvement! Every day that you struggle, the closer you will be to your best. Be your own best coach, encourage yourself and when you find yourself frustrated with your development, know that you are closer to making your breakthrough!
Enjoy Your Journey!